2011 Girlfriend Qualifications

1. Fun- You have to be fun to be around.  Hanging out with you is better than hanging out with anyone else.


2. Values- A couple has to have a similar code or morality. You generally agree on how to handle most situations but when you disagree you can see the others point of view. You generally treat people the same way.

3. Good Work Ethic- I have come down on the real job aspect. I can more easily see why people are not eager to work a real job, it sucks at times. If you have chosen to go an alternative route that is ok but you should have a plan even if its only an idea. Working at the bar at 25 and struggling to make ends meet isn't cool unless you are determined and have an idea of what you want to do. We all go through a malaise at times, but at the end of the day when push comes to shove you have to be driven. I have to believe in you.

4. Active- Bike riding, running, yoga, whatever as long as you like doing something active. It's attractive if you are somewhat athletic. Laying around all day is boring. If your out and about often, your more productive, your healthier, and your having more fun. The ability to do something active with a partner even if the intensity is toned down key to a healthy relationship.

5. Friends and Family- Your family is preferably nice and together. Maybe your dad is a real sports fan and you have some brothers and/or sisters. Your friends are cool to hang out with and not stuck up. Hopefully they are cool enough to hang out with in a group. Its important to maintain your friendships and not be so absorbed in each other that you neglect your friends. It also helps things from becoming stale.

6. Sports-  I wish this didn't have to be on the list but it does. You don't have to like sports but you must tolerate my fandom. Hopefully you find the athletic competition interesting but at the very least humor me from time to time. Hopefully you enjoy going to events be it sports or otherwise. This is a major point of contention and has been discussed ad nausea outside of this space.

7. Independent-  You do your own thing and can think for yourself. You are not co-dependent on others all the time. You don't get sucked into hype and every trend. Generally speaking you don't do things solely because it's the popular thing to do. You hate Dave Matthews Band because you know they suck. You can stand your ground if necessary.

Looks, Openess in Bed apply as well.